I am living breathing proof that extreme self care can help a person overcome trauma, abuse, and being an abuser themselves. So before I had my son, I was doing everything I could to ensure that level of care was my first priority.
Fast forward to just a few months ago and it'd be the same conversation, whether friend or acquaintance:
Them: So, how's it going? How's motherhood?
Me: I'm loving it, but tired as hell. I feel like I'm neglecting myself and my body hurts.
Them: Well, that's being a Mom.
SAYS WHO?!?! What?!?!
Why is this acceptable for most of us? Why do we think it's a good idea to put ourselves last? All. The. Time. I am calling bullshit.
We're raising the next generation and we think it's a good idea to show our sons and daughters that women are always meant to put themselves last? That we don't need relief, time to ourselves, time to exercise, dream, and put our dreams in motion.... Think about that long and hard for a minute. It's true that when they're newborn, we have to put them first all the time. Or ask for help while we take care of ourselves. How many women do that? How many women think it's ok to ask for help? And we want to pass what on to the next generation?
To all the Moms out there, you'll be a much nicer Mama, a more present Mama, and really a more compassionate Mama if you learn to make time for you. It's hard to really care for others when your cup is only half full or, worse, empty.
If you're struggling with this, let's chat. I struggled too and am still working on getting that balance thing to happen, but I can say I'm not the depressed, angry, pained, shell of myself that I was before I started really taking time for myself. I'm a stay at home Mom running a coaching business, Young Living lover and promoter, and nannying on the side. I've got a lot going on, but I still manage to stay present for my son and I still plan on homeschooling.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Let me take a look with you and help you figure out how to make yourself a priority.
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